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So the other day I logged on to my laptop and the homepage had a article about Amanda Todd, her story of being bullied and her suicide. I've read through the comments and even responded to some. A lot of them can be pretty much summed up in these few words "oh you're being bullied, get over it." In one of the discussions I was having with a fellow viewer they pointed out in their opinion that there are worse things than being bullied, and I disagree. Their points were rape, murder and child molestation. And while I agree these are horrendous crimes to commit against your fellow man, they are not worse than bullying. With those three things there are so many support groups and it is widely accepted that these actions are not right and when caught there will be punishment. Here is why in my opinion bullying is worse: bullying starts out small. One or two people start to tease someone. People laugh, they think it's funny and then it snowballs. It gets violent and physical and abusive. Some bullying is just verbal, and no matter what we try to say to ourselves the words of our tormenters echo in our head on repeat. We can't shake those words from our head. They follow us and sometimes we believe them to be true. Now unlike rape, murder and molestation as a society we tend to shake off bullying, push it in a corner and act like it's not a big deal, when it is. We say "put on your big girl panties and deal with it." "just suck it up." there are hundreds of ways where we dismiss bullying. And it gets to a point where sometimes the victim commits suicide and then it's asked well why didn't they say they were being bullied? When in fact every time they have talked about it or reported it, it was dismissed. And that's why bullying is worse. We have hundreds of support groups that are taken seriously for rape victims, murder victim's family and for those whom have been molested. But with bullying there aren't really that many that are taken seriously, that lack funding and sometimes the victim can't find a way to these support groups. And in today's world where we thrive on social media and we seem to lack a filter of what's private and what's not, we turn to social websites, to youtube, facebook, twitter, myspace, tumblr, any and every social website has people turning to it about being bullied. And then you have the commenters. People who are genuine in hearing your problems, your situation but for every one person who is there waiting to listen to you and help you there is at least two people who are willing to belittle your pain, call you weak and then tell you to suck it up.
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The fanfiction and icon pictures. And fanmixes...learned about a ton of new music, which I'm lame and legally bought.

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I chose to do this because I really agree with the concept of reading a book before seeing the movie. I have multiple examples of this being the "right" thing to do.

1) When I was in high school I started to read this little book called Memoirs of a Geisha. I love the book it is a beautiful book to read. Admittedly I read this book because I was moved by how beautiful the trailer for the movie was. My friend Evan had read the book before and I was talking to him about seeing the movie. He told me to read the book first and I chose to follow his advice. The book is honestly a gorgeous piece of literature. I get three-quarters of the way through the book before my family and I go see the movie. While the movie is visually stunning and beautiful, compared to the book it seriously lacked the loveliness the book had. They had left many things from the book out and instead of enhancing the book, it took away from the book. To this day I still have to finish this beautiful story.

2) Cirque Du Freak: The Vampire's Assistant I love the Cirque Du Freak series despite the awful ending of Sons of Destiny. I love this series. I think it's brilliant. I really haven't read many vampire books with a male as the central character. But this series is fantastic. But this movie sucked. I mean really sucked. And despite the suckage I loved it. This movie was awful. The reason it was so bad was because instead of focusing on being the first book, the writers, producers whoever thought it was a great idea to combine the first three movies together. Maybe it was the writer's fault, the producer's fault, or even the actor's faults. I don't know. When this movie came out, I went in purposefully separating what I knew the series to be and the movie and the possibility (which turned out to be correct) that is might suck. I love the movie, but based on the movie alone I would have no motivation to read this series. Fortunately I had read the books before hand.

3) Twilight and Harry Potter This point comes in two sub-parts

a) Twilight- I am personally a fan of the Twilight Saga. I discovered this book in 2006. It literally stalked me. I am not joking. I went into my high school library one day and this strange book called Twilight that is about vampires was sitting there. Now I have this horrible habit of reading the last page of a book. If I like the last page I will read the book. It is a quirk I have developed. Anyway the ending didn't sound very promising to me, however I checked it out. Twilight sat on my desk for the three weeks. I returned it. About a month later I checked it out again determined to read it. Once more it sat unread on my desk. This is where the stalking began... Everywhere I went Twilight was there. I went to Borders...Twilight, Wal-Mart...Twilight, Target...Twilight, every store I went to that had books Twilight was sitting there staring at me. Even further proof of the stalking is the release date. Twilight came out on October 5th 2005. October 5th happens to be my birthday. While I wasn't born in 2005, obviously, OCTOBER 5TH!!!!! I went into my school library. I couldn't find it. The librarian couldn't find it. I had been the only one to check out Twilight. The librarian and I had discovered this when we looked it up in the library check-out system.

A few weeks later Twilight was found! I finally read it. It was a rainy afternoon in late fall, early winter. I went home, actually excited to read this book that I had originally deemed unworthy of my attention. I remember the tv was on in the background and I was laying on the floor at an angle facing the back of the room. I had grabbed a blanket and snuggled down, propped up on some pillows. I cracked open the cover, and I DEVOURED the book. I read it twice in four hours. All weekend I kept rereading Twilight. At the time I did not know that there was a sequel. I wanted to know if in fact Edward had changed Bella or not. I went online and discovered that New Moon had been released, (August 26th, 2006). My library did not have this book. I went to Borders and saw that they had both Twilight and New Moon. My mom was awesome enough to buy me Twilight, while I bought New Moon for myself. When I read New Moon, I violated my number one rule about books...Do Not Abuse books. When Edward left, New Moon met my wall faster than Edward leaving Bella.

I read all four books before the first movie came out. This is where the pledge fits in. My sister is a new Twilight fan. She didn't understand the fascination I had with Twilight and I think to this day there are many parts of my fascination she still doesn't understand because she didn't get to experience Twilight from the beginning. It wasn't until Eclipse was coming out in theaters that she finally decided that she was going to read the series. She missed out on the slight enhancement the movies provided for the books. After Twilight I had to explain many things to her that she didn't understand because she hadn't read the book. After New Moon, I and another friend had to explain things to her again. She had read all the books before we went to the midnight showing of Eclipse. So she was able to follow along far more better this time. And now she's actually pretty stoked about going to the Midnight showing for Breaking Dawn (tickets will be on sale October 1st!)

b) Harry Potter- If you think I love Twilight, it has nothing on Harry Potter. I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE Harry Potter. I started reading Harry Potter when I was in the fifth grade. I was living in the capital of my state and going to school out in the country. Now one would think that by living in the capital I would've heard about Harry Potter. No this potterhead did not hear about this series until my fifth grade teacher Mrs. Henich decided to have it as the book she would read to us. Everyone in the class thought I was a freak, after all who hadn't heard of Harry Potter. Mrs. Henich started to read Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone (Philosopher's Stone). I could literally see everything about the world of Harry Potter. Dumbledore, Hagrid, Petunia, Dudley, Vernon, McGonagall, Snape, Hermione, Ron, the Weasley clan. I could see the world of Harry Potter and that experience of seeing in my head what I was reading had never happened to me before. I could see this entirely made up world and I loved it. Through each of the books I could see everything that was happening. Even after the movies were released I could see the characters I first pictured in my head, not the actors and actresses they cast. My mom and I read up to the third book together and then I took off into the Harry Potter world on my own. Now there are parts in each of the movies that seem a little off, but since I have read the books I can fill in those missing pieces. My sister however cannot.

She has not read the books. She claims she cannot get into them. After each movie I've had to explain the missing pieces for her because she won't read the books. So the problem is how do you explain hundreds of moments that happened? How do you explain the chills and heart-stopping moments? You can't. These are things you have to experience. How can I explain to my sister that after I turned the last page of Deathly Hallows I could not motivate myself to read another book for pleasure until many months later? I mean I couldn't read Eclipse when it came out. My mother had lovingly bought this book for me and I couldn't read it for months. How could I describe the moment to my sister how my heart stopped when Snape died? How I cried at the tale that Snape so painstakingly exposed? How it took me 9 hours to read this book that was the end of my childhood? That I could not stop crying at random intervals for months after I finished reading? That I still tear up when I read the dedication of the seventh book?

The thing about the Harry Potter movies are that they have to leave many things out. And I love the movies. I really do. They are in my opinion true to the books. But there is something about turning the pages of these books that a movie cannot capture. For me the Harry Potter movies enhance the reading experience of the books. And yes I divide what the movies are from the what the books are. My sister has to solely rely on the movies for how awesome the Harry Potter series is. For how Harry Potter has touched the lives of millions of people world wide. How the words "Until the very end" send chills up the spines of those who have read the books. That once you've read the Harry Potter books it will stick with you for the rest of your life. There is no going back from Harry Potter. These are things that have to be experienced from the books. And even though I seriously hate the fact that Hermione ended up with Ron and Harry ended up with Ginny, their struggles to finding a balanced relationship, to actually getting to the point of marriage is only something you can find in the books. I personally believe that Hermione should be with Draco in an ideal world, and in the books between Harry and Ron, Harry is obviously the better choice. Harry should be with either Hermione or my ideal pick Luna. Movies have to focus on certain points, and for Harry Potter it really wasn't about the romantic relationships. It was about ending Voldemort and the enormous challenge Harry had to overcome to defeat this absolutely evil man-thing. In the books you see the development of the relationships. The struggles and challenges the Golden Trio have to face. I am still trying to get my sister to read the Harry Potter books, because there is so much more to enjoy about Harry Potter.




The next book turned into a movie that I am so excited for is the Hunger Games. MARCH 23, 2012 BABY!!!!!!!! I cannot wait until it comes out. I love the series and am excited to see how they turn out. I think Jennifer Lawerence is a wonderful choice for Katniss. I don't know about the choices for Peeta (Team Baker) and Gale (Team Hunter), because I don't really know who the two guys are mostly. I know Josh Hutcherson was in Cirque Du Freak: The Vampire's Assistant. Personally when I first saw Josh Hutcherson and Liam Hemsworth I thought Josh was playing Gale and Liam was Peeta.





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What’s the most important thing to you (person, animal, anything)?
My family, my minions (my two cats), books, music, Harry Potter, and nerdfighteria

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If you could travel back in time, what would you tell your 10-year-old self?
It may be lame but: LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER! I would also tell myself to focus in high school. Take as many college credit classes you can when you are in high school. Get a job far sooner than I did. Love Harry Potter, Doctor Who, Twilight, yourself and most importantly above all things DFTBA!

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Would you give up the Internet for $10 million? (this is for the rest of your life.)
This isn't just a no this is a HELL NO! OH MY GOD! It's sad but I totally live on the internet. And I just joined Pottermore and I'm madly addicted to Twitter so no I would not give up the internet for $10 Million. This isn't even a passing thought.

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So my sister came home today and when she was talking to her bio mother she kept making comments like she planned for her pregnancy to happen. I don't want to sound mean but I think she thinks that mom is going to let her live at home until after the baby is born. But mom says that that isn't happening. I told her that she should probably be looking into apartments soon because she isn't gonna want to live here when she has the baby. Her answer was that it was the furthest thing from her mind. I just have no idea what she's thinking. She has a boyfriend that doesn't have any aspirations no job nor is he motivated to have a job. When he did have jobs he never held them longer than two months. He's on welfare and so is his entire family. Now I don't have a problem with people on welfare. I understand that there are people who truly need it. I'm okay with people on welfare if they are a) working and not making enough money to support their family b) unemployed but looking for jobs c) people who literally cannot work. But he and his family members can work. But they abuse the system. So when she does move into an apartment she's not only gonna have to support herself, the baby but him as well. All he does everyday is sit around playing video games, or hanging around the people who got him landed in jail the first time. I have no idea what she thinks is going to happen. She says he's good with his niece and nephew but the thing is at the end of the day he can give them back to mommy. He doesn't have to live with them 24 hours. He doesn't have to take care of them everyday. If they are upset he can hand them back to their mom. He has very little patience I can't see him supporting my sister in anyway. His father left him an inheritance but he blew through that fast. So now he has no money left and he still has fines he has to pay before he can be released of his parole. I think my sister only sees the sparkly side to having a baby. Not the effort, time, patience it takes. She's gonna have to work out a plan for a baby sitter because mom and I are not gonna put our lives on hold to help her raise her child. She's 23, she needs to learn to take care of the baby herself. I'm not saying that mom is just gonna kick her out. But mom isn't gonna let her stay with us forever. I think that when her bio mom moves back to town she's gonna move in with her. Her bio mom loves her boyfriend and thinks he's one of the best things since slice bread. I think my sister believes that having a baby with her boyfriend will motivate him to do something with his life. But he's 33 living at home with no job and a high school degree. He hasn't tried to do anything else. And in fact when he met my sister he was seeing someone else. My sister was enrolled in college and she had a grant to pay for school but what does she do? She drops out of school to spend time with her boyfriend and she's surprised she has to pay back the grant when one of the stipulations was she had to pass her classes and only then would she not have to pay back the money.

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I haven't been on lj in what seems like forever. I'm hoping to change that. Anyway I just had to post this. This week, well year has been kind of crazy. For example about a year ago my aunt was diagnosed with dementia and is stubbornly refusing to move closer to us so we can visit her more often and take much better care of her. About a month ago my aunt had a stroke, both numbers for her blood pressure was over 100! And her heart rate was below forty! The doctors said that if it had taken much longer for somebody to check on her she wouldn't have lived. Fortunately one of her friends kept having a feeling that something was horribly wrong. So her daughter told her to go check on my aunt. Apparently the house was in rambles. My mom went down there and there was black mold growing in the fridge, and everything was strewn about. So that was pretty scary. She's been in a nursing home that caters to Alzheimer's and dementia. There is a nursing home that my Aunt really likes and they are allowing her to keep her dog. And she's being transferred there within the next week. As for me I'm recovering from surgery. I had my gallbladder taken out because I had gall-stones. It all started two years ago with extreme abdominal pain and we thought that it might be stomach ulcers. But this year it came back with a vengeance. On the fourth of April I was in the emergency room, and they did an ultrasound and found out that I had three gall-stones. So we had to get them removed. I had the surgery on Tuesday. I'm feeling okay, but the doctors told me not to go back to work until I do my follow-up appointment in a week and half now. I also can't lift anything more than ten to fifteen pounds for they said the next month, but I'll see what happens at my follow-up.

And on top of all this my sister discovered yesterday that she's pregnant. I'm happy for her I really am because she was so concerned that she wouldn't be able to have children. I always felt really guilty, because I'm not certain I want to have kids. I felt that my sister would be mad at me for that if she couldn't get pregnant. So she's a month pregnant. The only thing I'm upset about is that the timing now really sucks for her. She's just starting to get into a place she wants to be and now the plans she was making now have to be put on hold. Also her boss isn't really a very good one. Lately she seems to have it out for my sister. Mom and I told her she should only tell the people who are the higher-ups that she's pregnant because we're afraid that her boss will use her pregnancy against her and try to get her fired. We are also trying to convince her to find a better job. At one time she used to love her job, but as time has progressed she no longer finds it enjoyable. It's really frustrating. I'm frustrated for her because she does so much for her job and she gives and gives and her boss can be very shallow and I'm not just saying this because she's my sister but because it's true. One of her friends was working there and got pregnant and she needed the few extra weeks of work before she had the baby and moved, but the boss didn't schedule her for three weeks before she said she was going to leave her job. Anyway right now really isn't a very wonderful time for my family. The timing is all wrong.

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If you could cast one type of magic spell, which would you choose, and why?


I would also choose Barty Crouch Jr. ;)

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If you could cast one type of magic spell, which would you choose, and why?


Draco Malfoy. Why? Because he's DRACO MALFOY!

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